Category: Parent Talk
How did you feel when you finally realized that Santa, the Tooth Farry and other things you were brought to believe as a child didn't really exist?
I never really believed, before I went blind, I used to notice everything. I noticed one santa was a bit smaller than another. Even when I went to two stores, I doubted santa could be in two places. I also didn't really know about the easter bunny until I was 7. With that my things were already over.
I don't recall the point at which I stopped believing. But I still believe in - or in some cases in the possibility of things beyond in-your-face fact which I can see, or touch.
I painted myself fluorescent orange, ran screaming through the streets naked, and shot at everything that moved. They're right: having a little fun and games stories at the holidays is psychologically damaging.
I can't recall exactly when I stopped believing in the tooth fairy, Santa, etc. But it was before my dad and stepmom broke it to me, and I thought, really. Can you tell me something I didn't all ready know? Lol.
Lol, actually, I found out when I was about 7 or so. My sister caught my parents putting presents under the tree, and she told me. But, like I just said on the other similar topic, I wasn't traumatized. I kind of shrugged it off. I really didn't see the big deal in knowing or not knowing.
haha lol! :) <3
I think it's sad that some people don't seem to believe in having a bit of fun; it's a tradition that kids love! Why not?! Part of being a kid.
Not everyone believes in the same tradditions though. There are people who don't celebrate Christmas, so why would you tell your ids that there is a Santa Clause if you don't celebrate Christmas?
The question that comes up with me is this though. All my family is Christian and I am the only one who has chosen to be Atheist. So if I decide to have kids, and I decide to not tell them about Santa Clause yet my family has always used that tradition when I was a kid, how do you think that would turn out? This is litterally something I just thought of as I read this so I haven't given it much thought yet.
Ryan, I am an atheist and so is my partner, but we celebrate christmas with our families for the sake of tradition. Both of us come from a strong catholic background, and christmas, at least in my family, has always been a huge deal. so we've decided it's wise to foregoe our beliefs for a couple of days, not suppress them, mind you, just make less of a big deal about them, for the sake of spending time with family. And so my son will know about the legend of santa and he'll know what it's like to decorate a christmas tree, simply because it's fun. We believe that in denying him that, we'd be doing im more harm because we'd prevent him from being able to partake in very good quality time with family just so we could be consistent with our beliefs.
We'll explain to him, when the time comes, that christmas is more about spending time with loved ones than anything. And anyway, though my family is religious and some insist on christmas taking on a christian meaning first and foremost, the majority agree that it's ok to set aside the religious aspect of it all and concentrate on having fun with family.
Let me make something clear. I believe there is good in presenting santa as a legend to children. Its a great story and has a lot of magic. However, I don't believe in presenting it as reality. Does anyone not understand the difference I'm making there?
agreed, Cody.
My parents never promoted or discouraged belief in any of these things, so my siblings and I grew up not believing in Santa, the tooth fairy, or the Easter bunny. My Mother would sometimes say that this gift or money was from such a character, but I knew it was from her. If I was a parent, I would do the same.